YOUNG COUPLES AND SUBSTANCE ABUSE
from the Month of Youth Against AIDS (MYAA), which is commemorated in
Botswana during the month of March, BOSASNet focuses on youth this
month; therefore the topic for this week is "Young Couples and Substance
Some of the young couples that have come for assistance at
BOSASNet report substance abuse as one of the causes of problems in
their relationships. When substances are present in young couples’
lives, it is bound to end up being a distressful situation due to the
fact that the new couples are battling to settle and start a new life as
a family. The obligation to bring up children in environments that are
not conducive and to live up to the society’s expectation may spell
impending disaster due to substance abuse.
What do young couples report as misunderstandings caused by substance abuse?
"But you knew I was using before we met":
This is a scenario where one of the two was on drugs when they met and
the sober one is now complaining. The sober one might in some instances,
out of boredom, join in the substance abuse.
"I do not feel you, I do not see you, so I find my own way":
A spouse has been replaced by substance abuse and feels neglected. The
neglected partner finds solace in an outside external relationship.
"We have lost it all":
Substance abuse has robbed the young family of their house with
mortgage debts; unpaid utilities, no school fees for children and lost
jobs due to constant absenteeism from work.
Birth defects: Substance abuse replaces healthy babies of a young couple with pre-mature,
unhealthy, disabled babies who will grow up demanding heavily through
high medical expenses. All this from a young couple that has just
started a journey of life together.
In conclusion, substance abuse
often leads to fights among the couples, ending up in family breakages
or divorce. Young couples are most vulnerable because they are still new
in the field of marriage and have a huge future ahead of them to
If you think you and anyone you know, may have challenges
with substances, please contact BOSASNet to speak to a counsellor at
72659891, 3959119/3913490, Fax 3951333 or like our face book page.
BOSASNet services are professional and strictly confidential.